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We are Story-Tellers and Myth-Makers

Image and quote re: our stories...As humans trying to understand this experience called ‘life’, with all the weirdities and emotional ups and downs… from the time we’re infants, absorbing what’s happening around us… we create stories.

Stories that inform us.  Stories that explain to us why some things happen around or to us.

Stories that reflect our feelings… our thoughts… our beliefs… the stories of our families, our parents, and their stories….

So many stories, all intended to help us understand life.  To help us understand how we fit in… who we are.

As infants and young children, we are wide open vessels, learning all the time – we absorb so much!  Including our parents’ perceptions of us…

Image and quote re: life's a story...We were all told some version of – ‘you’re such a kind kid… you’re so mean… you’re so intense… you’re so calm… you’re a good kid… a bad kid… you love animals…you’re so smart… you’re so stupid… you’re so coordinated… you’re so clumsy… etc.]’.

So many messages about who they see us being.  So many stories.  So many myths about who we are.  And when we’re young, we all absorb them all.  What else can we do?  What else do we know?

Are they true?  Do they speak to who we truly are?

Or do they just reflect who our parents were/are, and the messages/stories they’d received, and are living within…

Some of the stories are ‘good’ – they help us feel capable, loved, unique, special.

And some of them feel ‘bad’ – they create stress in us – we feel unloved, different, unworthy, afraid, anxious.  Stressed

We each and all received a unique ‘recipe’ of these ‘good’ and ‘bad’ stories.

Image and quote re: looking in the mirrorSince they’re what our parents believe[d], they come to define us in our own eyes too.  We believe them.  We trust these stories.

Then, our brains use them as our template for reality.   When something new happens, our brain’s processor scans for how they fit our stories.  We begin looking for confirmation of our stories in what continues to happen.

And because we are, in essence, co-creators of reality, we continue to create stories which reflect our old stories, the ones our parents gave to us.  They become our myths.

This is why, to use a powerful example, a young girl who grows up in a family where her daddy beat up her mommy all the time, will grow up with a story about how men treat women, and how women respond to this (depending on how her mommy responded). And her ideas about love will be all twined together with men hurting women. Then, that little girl with that story will grow up, and re-enact that story, by finding a partner who beats her up too.

Image and quote re changing our stories...How does she change this story?

I knew a woman once, with this very childhood story, who had married seven men, one after the other, looking for a man who treated her well… one who’s loving didn’t mean beating her up.

Seven times.

That’s a powerfully painful story, each chapter reinforcing her original chapter from her young childhood.  How does she change it?

When it’s so familiar, and seems to reflect reality as well and as accurately as this story of hers does?  It has been her reality.

How does she change it?  She’s tried so hard.  Seven times.

This is the struggle for all of us, regardless of the specifics of our stories.  Especially the painful, or hurting, or limiting ones.  How do we move beyond them?

Image and quote re: Stories using you up....These stories are so powerful.  They usually not only describe our sense of ourselves… but also those of our parents, our siblings, our friends, our relatives, what we see [notice, attend to] in the news, in the tv shows and movies we watch, the music we listen to, the books we read.

Our brain keeps on giving us the same messages, over and over again – reflections of not just what’s happening in our life, but also what’s ‘out there’….

And so, some of our individual stories are also embedded as part of a much larger cultural story.  It all seems so real.

Image and quote about us being made of stories.So real that we don’t even pay conscious attention to these stories any more – they just keep playing in our consciousness, over and over, underneath the level of our conscious awareness.  We’re not even aware that they’re playing.

How do we change these stories?

Well, here’s what I’ve found.

We won’t find the answers outside ourselves, as tempting as it is to believe that we will.

Not in a book, or from a teacher or best friend.  Not at a school…

Image and quote re: it's an inside jobThe only place we’ll find them, is within our own consciousness.

Usually this has meant lots of soul-searching, and recognizing it’s a journey not a destination.

But even so, long-time habits and old stories are hard to let go of.  They’re just so familiar.

And that’s one of the reasons I love these sound tools.

Using our own voice, with all the information coded in there,.. we can find the places where our voices are out of balance, due to our stressful stories… and create the tones and frequencies to bring balance back into our bodies…

Dissipating the stress.  And releasing our attachment to our old stories.

No “understanding” needed.  No effort to clear them.  Just listening to our personal tones, and allowing the balancing within them to release the stress, letting go of the old stories.

Image an quote re healing with soundThis of course creates new space for new stories… stories which aren’t constraining us.  Stories which better reflect who we are now.  Stories which inspire us forward, into greater loving and acceptance…

Into new adventures, new growing.  Allowing us to ‘walk our path, filled with wonder and joy’…

If this resonates with you, and you want to find out more about these stress-busters, check out my FAQ’s page, to answer some questions you may have.

Or, feel free to check out some of my other blogs here…

For more about me, and some of my own story, go here…

Or, to have a deeper look at the sound tools for your health, you can check them out here…

 

 

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