Stress and Play

CQ Dear Stress...Stress.  It’s a kill-joy.

Turns out that’s absolutely true.

Over the decades of working with so many stressed out families, this was a patterns I saw over and over again.

One of the first places I saw the impact of stress in families and individuals, was on playing.  Playing together.  Playing on their own.

Image and quote: “The playing adult steps sideward into another reality; the playing child advances forward to new stages of mastery.” – Erik H. EriksonI used to intuitively begin there – to help families learn to play together again.  You know, to have some fun.

They often resisted – it felt like a side-trip, a useless excursion into frivolity, when there were much more pressing, serious needs to be dealt with.

I get this, I really do (I’ve felt it myself – when I’m stressed out, the last thing I want to do is to play or have fun!).

At the time, I described the need for play as building in their resiliency to deal with the stressors.

I’d explain this by using the analogy of bank accounts… The fun times together were like a savings account, which could be drawn on in times of need, when the chequing account became overdrawn by too much stress.  The fun times together actually built in resiliency, to help them better be able to handle the stressors when they came up.

Image and quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson - "It is a happy talent to know how to play."Over time (for those who were willing to try this mad experiment) as we continued to also focus on communication and problem-solving their challenges. the playing together seemed to create a difference that made a big difference,

Now I understand that what we were doing during those play sessions, was helping them retrain their brains away from stress… and into greater relaxation and creativity… by building essential new neural networks in their brains, through play.

Those so-called “side-trips” into play were actually beginning to create and then develop or “thicken” new neural pathways associated with fun and pleasure in their brains.

But getting our human brains to switch direction away from stress and towards pleasure, joy and relaxation, seems to be such a challenge.  Our brain naturally prefer to travel the well-known paths it’s already traveled before – this takes less effort and feels more natural.

Image and quote: “If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.” ― Nikola TeslaThat’s where using specific frequencies which help re-train our brains into the states of consciousness associated with relaxation and joy come in.

For several decades now, research studies and reports from those who’ve used brain frequencies to re-train their brain, have consistently demonstated what’s been called “the following effect” in the brain.

When we use laser-focused frequencies which are associated with different brainwaves (which are connected to different states of consciousness like focused concentration, or relaxation, or deep creativity, or sleep), the brain ‘follows along’, and gets triggered into those states of consciousness.

That “following effect” begins to allow new neural pathways in the brain to be created, making returning to those states of consciousness easier.  With ongoing repetition, the neural pathways develop into more extensive neural networks – and then it’s easier and easier to get back into those states, and to stay there longer.

Life becomes more relaxing…  We become happier humans, who can deliberately create the kind of life we want: With less stress.  And more fun.

CQ Shaw on PlayIf you’re interested in learning to develop your own joy in playing while exploring your own creativity, perhaps you’d like to try out one of my gamma doodling groups (no prior experience and no “artistic” ability needed)…

You can read about them here… And here, for more on the brainwave frequencies we re-train our brains to, in my gamma doodling groups.

If you’re wanting to know how your own voice can help you clear stress, check this out

If you’d like to read about how our sound frequencies have helped re-train the brain of some other people just like you, you can discover more here

And if you’re curious to know more about me, and my work… and why I shifted from “traditional” therapy into using sound, you can find out more here, and in this blog post.

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