“What Doesn’t Kill You, Makes you Stronger”

We’ve all heard the phrase, “What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.”  And while it may feel like an over-statement to those in the throes of a traumatic crisis, it turns out this statement actually does hold some valid, scientific truth.

HuffPost Senior Writer Carolyn Gregoire reports on this phenomenon in her book, co-written with psychologist Scott Barry Kaufman, called “Wired to Create: Unraveling the Mysteries of the Creative Mind”.

In it, they report on the pioneering work of researchers Tedeschi and Calhoun, who work at the University of North Carolina.

These researchers have been studying trauma/significant stress since the 1990’s.  What they’ve found has been described as the most accepted model of post-traumatic growth to date.  It suggests that “people naturally develop and rely on a set of beliefs and assumptions that they’ve formed about the world, and in order for growth to occur after a trauma, the traumatic event must deeply challenge those beliefs.”

Impact of trauma on human life

Tedeschi and Calhoun describe the impact of trauma as being like an earthquake… “It shatters our worldviews, beliefs, worldviews and pre-crisis sense of identity… Even our most foundational structures of thought and belief crumble to pieces from the magnitude of the impact.  We are shaken, almost literally, from our ordinary perception, and left to rebuild ourselves and our worlds.  The more we are shaken, the more we must let go of our former selves and assumptions, and begin again from the ground up…”

As researchers Tedeschi and Calhoun describe: “A psychologically seismic event can severely shake, threaten, or reduce to rubble many of the schematic [ie thoughts and beliefs] structures that have guided understanding, decision making, and meaningfulness.”

The potential for a silver lining inside the trauma cloud…

In our world of sound healing, working with our human vibratory field, we describe this as shaking up our oldest, limiting stories about the world and our place in it, to clear them out.

It can be a good thing (although obviously quite uncomfortable), because it allows for clearing out the limitations of our understanding of the world and our place in it.  It allows space for new, more life-affirming potential to become expressed.

In their book, Tedeschi and Calhoun report that “up to 70 percent of trauma survivors report some positive psychological growth, in experiencing profound transformation via coping with a variety of challenging life circumstances and traumatic events.”

This new growth can include “a greater appreciation for life, the identification of new possibilities for one’s life, more satisfying interpersonal relationships, a richer spiritual life and a connection to something greater than oneself, and a sense of personal strength.”

As Gregoire and Kaufman conclude, based on the extensive research into post-traumatic growth and creativity by another psychologist, Marie Forgeard’s work at McLean Hospital/Harvard Medical School: “Because adverse events force us to re-examine our beliefs and priorities, they can help us break out of habitual ways of thinking and thereby boost creativity.”

The challenge in actually getting to that silver lining inside the trauma cloud

Most healing modalities, and daily life in general, can create triggers for remembering the trauma, in order to move through finding ways to heal it.

And the process of remembering can create more deeply embedded neural pathways that reinforce the original pathways created by the trauma – this can lead to feeling we’re re-experiencing the trauma as though it’s happening all over again.  That’s obviously neither helpful, nor is it a path many (understandably) want to take.

And the great news is, it’s no longer the only or the best route to healing from trauma that we can consider.

Working with your voice and sound: the newest route to clearing trauma

A voice assessment session with our sound technology will 1) pinpoint with laser-like precision, exactly where you’re holding on to stress, and then 2) provide the specific frequencies to balance it out. This combination of find-and-balance clears away your stress – and the thoughts and beliefs which are connected to it… And it’s just so easy – all you need to do is listen daily to your balancing frequencies (in addition to continuing your other self-care habits.**)

While nothing, including a voice assessment session, can change your past experiences, what this modality can do, is to release your intense emotional reactivity to it… freeing up your emotional energy, and allowing you to use that energy in new, more creative ways… allowing you space to step into more of your human potential…

And to discover that it’s true, you really are so much more than your past overwhelmingly painful experiences have led you to believe.  We are all so much bigger and vaster than our oldest beliefs would have us believe.  What hasn’t killed us, can indeed make us stronger.

To read more about how our old stories contribute to limitations in our living lives of joy and deep satisfaction – living within more of our human potential, you can read more about this here… and  here’s another blog post you may find helpful.

And here’s one on the impact of stress on our capacity to play and have fun

If you’d like to find out more about me, and my history in working with stress and trauma, check this out here…

And if you’d like to check out how others have experienced profound changes in their lives, by using our sound healing tools, you can find some (spontaneously offered) comments from some of our clients here.


** This website, my blogs and my services are not intended to diagnose or provide medical services.  Please read my warm disclosre page, to clarify what my services, and these tools can provide to you, and what legal limitations I work within.

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